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In today’s blog post, I wish to open a conversation with you by talking about positivity. I think, there is misconception and misunderstanding on this topic. Normally, when we think about someone who is positive, or someone who brings positive energy to other people, we tend to associate the person by believing that that person must be living a happy and or even a perfect life. However, what we fail to see is that this is often not true.
I don’t think or believe that any one could be an entirely positive or an entirely negative person, that is just not possible. I think, there is always a balance between the two. And, speaking for myself, I have always been fluctuated between the two. And, I do also think, it’s only in the recent few years of my life (speaking specifically about my post Vision Loss acceptance journey from two and half years ago), that I became a more positive person now.
People now see me as someone who is positive and even a role model for positivity sometimes (although, I’m not entirely sure about this), but, what some people don’t see are probably two things: One, I became a positive person because I surround myself with positive people. And two, I found positivity when I abandoned the thrive for perfection and unrealistic ideals about myself (from myself and from others).
As mentioned, one of the misconceptions that people see someone as positive is that they must be living a good or perfectly fine life. As I said, I don’t agree with this. Realistically speaking, I found my positivity when I stopped looking for perfection in my life. Here, I will introduce to you one potentially useful self-help book written by Brene Brown, the book is titled The Gifts of Imperfection. I learned so much from reading this book. One important message coming from this book is that, “Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and be who you are.” I think, this phrase is not only powerful but also very encouraging and, it could possibly lift anybody up, at least it did for me.
Also, to emphasize, I am a more positive person now, it doesn’t mean my life is now perfect. I’ve learned something else that’s also so very important, and that is, acceptance doesn’t equal to liking, which means, if I accept something, it doesn’t mean that I’ll have to like it. Sometimes, acceptance helps a person to safely letting go of things (or of toxic people). I’ve learned to accept circumstances and people that I don’t like and know that that is for my own good. I’ve learned to love life and find the positives despite the challenges I constantly face. For me, positivity means imperfection, and, it is important to love my imperfect life and self as the way it is. Don’t wait until life is ‘perfect’ to start loving it, that’d be too late. Start loving life and loving yourself as the way it is (or the way you are), that is, also as Brene Brown puts it, the only way to whole hearted living. Finding positivity works almost the same way- no need to wait until life is ‘perfect’ to start looking for the positives. Life itself is imperfect, so, it’s important to find the positives despite its imperfection.
Hence, this concludes today’s blog post. Thank you for reading to the end, and I hope you’ve found some positivity from reading this post.
By: The Invisible Vision Project